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Friday, May 18, 2012
When My Parent Ages
When My Parent Ages
Proverbs 23:22 (ESV) –
Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when
she is old.
Additional Bible Reading:
Exodus 20:12 (ESV) –
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that
the Lord your God is giving you.
The doctor’s assessment read, “Global dementia, likely vascular
dementia, cannot rule out concomitant Alzheimer’s type dementia.” The medical
report confirmed our haunting suspicion as my siblings and I had begun to
witness the gradual loss of cognitive function of our intelligent mother, who
had earned a doctorate degree in education. The troublesome diagnosis thrust us
on a formidable journey with a growing group as “the number of Americans living
in the United States as caregivers to someone with Alzheimer’s or a different
type of dementia is fifteen million,” according to Maria Carrillo, Ph.D., with
the Alzheimer’s Association. God is allowing my siblings and me to assume new
responsibilities in the care of our mother, and he will not forsake us.
When Mom’s capacities diminish,
Wisdom and love are put to the test;
Choices available haunt our thoughts
As we seek to choose only what’s best.
Researching options consumes our days,
As we pray for peace and discernment,
Seeking to provide for all Mom’s needs
And, above all, that she be content.
It is difficult for the children
To assume responsibility
For the provision of loving care,
While escaping Mom’s hostility.
Father, we kneel before You in prayer;
You know the condition of our hearts,
The desire for what is best for Mom;
Reveal to us choices that are smart.
Cover us with grace as we proceed;
Remove our mother’s troubled spirit,
Cleanse her inner wounds; help her forgive;
Restore pleasure, gentleness, and wit.
Dear Father, I ask for your wisdom to make decisions for my
parents that honor them and glorify you. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
Examine choices for your aging parent. Consult with professionals
and Christian friends who can walk the difficult journey with you.